On Bondage
There is much speculation as to when and where bondage really originated. Some experts believe that bondage began in the Far East, where the act of shaming and subjugating women was a part of life. However, over the past few decades, as numerous literature on the subject has emerged, more and more people have become interested in bondage as a means of sexual expression. In recent years, with the prevalence of sexual freedom in our society, bondage enthusiasts can easily find others who share similar desires. As a result, the number of bondage clubs and groups is growing.
Psychiatrists have labeled bondage (they have a label for everything) as erotic, something beyond the normal sexual patterns of society. Some have even labeled bondage enthusiasts as weird and perverted. Naturally, we at THE B&D CLUB disagree, though we do not take offense at the words and labels of our learned friends, the psychiatrists. No, we do not take offense, for we believe that in a free society, everyone should be able to express their thoughts freely. We also believe that in a free society, men and women, couples or groups, should be allowed the freedom of self-expression, whether it be mentally, spiritually, or sexually. You should be allowed to practice whatever your thing is, as long as it doesn’t mentally or physically endanger the health or welfare of another human being unless that person consents to having their health or welfare endangered.
Over the years, we have found that those “authorities” who speak the loudest and longest against bondage and its related activities know very little about the subject—except from a clinical point of view. They have very little firsthand experience, or the experience they had was distasteful. They have not taken the time to explore the excitement or the beauty of a complete bondage experience. Or perhaps the one bondage experience they half-heartedly entered into wasn’t handled with enough class to fill a thimble. Anyway, let’s get back to the main theme of this article, which is bondage. Bondage is a sexual expression and dominates a sexual drive in varying degrees, according to the individual. Bondage enables the captor to see themselves as "The King," "The Master," who has complete authority to control and sexually use and enjoy the captive. To most of us, bondage is an exciting and stimulating game. To some of us, bondage controls our entire existence. Sadism does play an active role in bondage; how great or how slight depends upon the needs and desires of each individual. Some of us like to mentally feel that we are inflicting pain on our captive, while others are actually doing so. Though it is not generally the case, some often substitute bondage and sadism for normal "coitus." Though these cases are few and far between, it is these people society looks upon when passing out labels.
What about the rest of us? Bondage is probably the most common act among all sexual deviations (we have deviated from normal intercourse). Sadism, coupled with bondage, puts the victim into a position of helplessness and humiliation. And the desire to hurt or destroy the victim becomes foremost in the captor's mind. However, let us make it perfectly clear about this point: this desire is in the mind of the captor, and not in the will of the captor.
Please understand, bondage as a form of sexual expression is diverse, and only with mutual consent can it become a healthy and enjoyable experience.
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